"The sex is good. There's nothing wrong, but there's no goosebumps, no butterflies, there's no tingling anywhere you know?" Angela, from the show Power
I know a lot of women can relate to this statement. We run into a nice guy but we just aren't feeling him. It can never be simple with us; even though we claim to want the simple things, we always seem to fall for the complicated guys. Why? Do we seek to cause ourselves pain? No. What is it? Why do we want the unattainable? We give so much to those that aren't ready to receive the love we have to give. We think we can change the guy and that somehow he's different from the rest, but he's really exactly like the other inconsiderate guys you've dated. And if he really is different from the rest, who has the time to wait around for him to get his act together? None of us are perfect and we may not have it all together, but you at least have to be with someone that is going to meet you halfway or else it's just a wasted effort. Real work must be invested in building any type of relationship; whether its a platonic or a romantic relationship. On the other hand, we also don't want to be with a guy that we have no chemistry with. It's a double edged sword. It's difficult finding that balance, but just know that when you do find that person; it won't be complicated. You will know. Your happiness depends on your choices, so choose to be with someone that honors your soul and respects you. Oh and goosebumps every now and then are nice too. :)
