Are you a leader or a follower? What makes you either/or?

I am both a leader and a follower. But recently more of a follower, seeking approval and acceptance from others. Pleasing everyone but myself. I get so lost in other's opinions and reactions I forget to value my own… I'm not so sure why people aim to please each other so much. I guess we all want to be liked. Then we lose ourselves in the process, and it really gets exhausting.  However, I'm more of a leader in my professional life than in my personal one. I've been taking on more roles and responsibilities at work, and I'm learning to be more assertive in my approach to getting things done.  But I've been learning that you really shouldn't care so much about the opinions of others. We suffer more from just THINKING about what someone's going to say or think before they even have a chance to react. I'm learning to trust my instincts more, and I'm living my life out loud, leading the way.